Thursday, December 8, 2011

Creating Order Out of Chaos

One delight about hitting the mid-century mark in life is that you get really clear on where your talents don’t lie. I admit it. I am lousy at space planning. This simple truth has led to all manner of confused rooms and unproductive spaces in my home and office.

A recent move set me adrift. Because of a goofy moving schedule brought about by a “hurry-up-and–wait” loan process, I ended up harried at the last minute. To make matters worse, I used recycled boxes from other moves. They are marked: bedroom, kitchen, bath in various colors of Sharpie. So which is it? I never know until I open the box intended for the kitchen and then have to drag it to another room entirely.

This led me to seek help. Next week, my friend Francesca is coming over to help me sort myself out. Thank, goodness. One of Francesca’s secrets to success in her restaurants is how the space is plotted out. Cozy, close and elegant.

Before she drops by, I’m busy unpacking. With each box I get a little more clear on what matters. What’s really worth keeping, and what needs recycling.

I guess I should be grateful for the chaos it’s causing. It’s forcing me to take my time and bring order to my life. It's a slow process. 

And it’s teaching me what I’ve come to believe is my New Year’s resolution: I must learn patience. It’s a valuable lesson and one I’ve never, ever mastered.

I’m looking for help on the patience front. Got any tips for me?


Anonymous said...

Patricia, Most of us never really experience the present moment fully and completely, consistently. We constantly fret about the past or contemplate the future. If you perceive that you lack patience, it's probably because your mind is leaping ahead, which means your body is left behind. The result is that you are left feeling out of sync. Consistently listening to your breath, which is hard to do but possible and certainly worth the effort, will ground you in the present moment. If you are fully alive in the now, I doubt you'll feel a lack of patience. You'll just feel. The human construct of time will cease to exist and you'll walk through a portal into no time, which will be experienced as all the time in the world.

Love, Amy Dean

Patricia Martin said...

You've hit the nail on the head. My mind does charge ahead. Okay, thanks for the pearl, Amy.

Karen Hanrahan said...

love that, your mind leaps ahead and ones body is left chaotic as change, and especially moving is - i adore the sorting, letting go and re-grouping. I have observed in my way too many moves that part of what goes on is an overwhelming volume of decisions need to be made. This needs me to have to know what I want. It might be which drawer something goes in, or which framed piece goes where, but moving to me sharpens my clarity. For some, like my daughter it heightened her i don't know. Her youth found her incapable of a simple decision. She could not manage it. Since, she's mastered it - thank goodness! We all have both the i don't know and the I know in us. I smile to myself when i am clear about something. I the place of not knowing, like you - i ask for help! Happy new home and organizing to you!!